When Willpower Is Trumped By The Wheel of Life

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pexels-photo-568948.jpegDo you regularly make resolutions at the end of the year? Do you follow through with them consistently during the upcoming year? I find that most people start a New Year’s resolution with the best of intentions but after a few months their willpower fades and they resort back to their old habits. And those that do manage to stick to their New Years resolutions do so by using willpower and the belief that they can’t fail at something or they have started it so they will finish it!

Is there an easier way to set goals and achieve them by working smart and not hard? The answer is that this can easily be done by arranging your life goals in a meaningful way using the concept of a wheel of life.

Six Steps To Create Your Wheel Of Life

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A wheel of life is a piechart where each segment of the piechart represents a segment of your life. On my wheel of life, the segments are divided into nine categories as follows: Physical Body; Emotion / Meaning /Spiritual; Relationships; Time Management; Work / Career; Economic / Finances; Contribution; Personal Growth and Celebration. Each spoke of the wheel of life is divided into ten divisions which are numbered from one to ten. How you feel about that area of your life is represented by drawing an X on the appropriate division on the spoke. In my wheel of life I have drawn an X on the eighth division on the spoke since I believe that I am improving the quality of my life by attending personal development courses.

This process is repeated for each segment of your wheel of life and then the X’s on each of the spokes are connected together to form a wheel. Not all of the X’s on the spokes will have the same value. Some spokes will have a higher value than other spokes which means that some areas of your life will be running more smoothly than other areas giving you an idea of the areas of your life that you need to focus upon.

To complete this exercise follow these steps:

  1. Draw a circle on a sheet of paper.
  2. Divide the circle into segments which represent each area of your life.
  3. Divide the spoke between each segment into ten divisions and number them from 1 to 10.
  4. Place an X on the number that represents how you feel about each area of your life with 1 being the lowest and 10 being the highest value.
  5. Connect the X’s on each of the spokes together in order to create a wheel.
  6. Make a note of which areas have the lowest values since these are the areas that you need to work on first in order to see an immediate improvement in the quality of your life.

Five Ways To Add Values To Your Wheel Of Life

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A strategy I use when evaluating my life and setting goals is to add my values and beliefs to the appropriate segment of my wheel of life. I find that doing this gives each segment clarity in terms of focus and direction.

Values are used by the subconscious to either move away from or towards an objective or feeling. For example you may value money because you are moving away from poverty. Or you may train at the gym three times a week and be on a healthy eating plan because you are moving towards being healthy.

In order to determine your values, write down the segment of your wheel of life that you are evaluating as a heading on a sheet of paper. Divide the sheet of paper into two columns, one titled “Towards” and the other titled “Away From”. Then ask yourself the following question and each time a value comes to mind, write it in the appropriate column:

  1. What is important about this area of my life?

Repeat this process until no more values come to mind when you ask this question. Next place the values in a values hierarchy. Review the list of the values that you have written down for the towards values and circle the one value that you want to express consistently on a daily basis. Then repeat the process with the remaining values until you have about six or seven values ranked in order. These are your values for this segment of your wheel of life that you are moving towards. Write the top three moving towards values in this segment of your wheel of life.

Repeat this process for the moving away from values. Circle the one value that you want to eliminate in your life. And then the second and third values until you have a list of six or seven values ranked in order. These are your values for this segment of your wheel of life that you are moving away from. Write the top three moving away from values in this segment of your wheel of life.

To complete this exercise complete the following steps:

  1. Write down the title of the segment of the wheel of life that you are evaluating.
  2. Draw two columns on a sheet of paper and title them “moving towards” and “away from”.
  3. Ask yourself the question “what is important in this area of my life” and write down the value in the appropriate column.
  4. Rank the “moving towards” and “away from values” using a values hierarchy by determining which three values you want to keep the most and which three values you want to get rid of the most.
  5. Write the top three moving towards and the top three moving away from values into the appropriate segment of the wheel of life.

5 Ways To Add Beliefs To Your Wheel Of Life

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Beliefs tend to be based on the cause and effect model which can be identified with an I am” …. statement or an “if … then” statement. In order to determine your beliefs write down the segment of your wheel of life that you are evaluating as a heading on a sheet of paper. Divide the sheet of paper into two columns, one titled “Empowering ” and the other titled “Limiting”.Then complete the following statements shown below and each time a belief comes to mind write it in the appropriate column. Cycle through the steps writing as quickly as possible until you cannot think of anything else to write.

  1. I am ….
  2. If I …. then …

Repeat this process until no more beliefs come to mind when you complete these statements. Next place the beliefs in a beliefs hierarchy. Review the list of the empowering beliefs  that you have written down and circle the one belief that you want to express consistently on a daily basis. Then repeat the process with the remaining beliefs until you have about six or seven beliefs ranked in order. These are your beliefs for this segment of your wheel of life that empower you. Write your top three  empowering beliefs into the appropriate segment of your wheel of life.

To complete this exercise complete the following steps:

  1. Write down the title of the segment of the wheel of life that you are evaluating.
  2. Draw two columns on a sheet of paper and title them “empowering” and “limiting”.
  3. Complete the statements “I am” and “If I … then …” and write down your statement in the appropriate column.
  4. Rank your empowering beliefs using a beliefs hierarchy by determining which beliefs you want to keep the most in this area.
  5. Write the top three empowering beliefs into the appropriate segment of the wheel of life.

If you have any limiting beliefs then refer to the blog post “Three Steps To Completing Your Goals Using Incantations”.

Four Steps To Add Goals To Your Wheel Of Life

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Once you have determined the beliefs and values for the segment of the wheel of life you are evaluating, you are now in a position to set some meaningful goals that are in alignment with your values and beliefs. I use the RPM (Rapid Planning Method) and MAP (Massive Action Plan) strategies, both taught by Tony Robbins in order to achieve this. To complete these strategies write down your answers to the following questions on a sheet of paper:

  1. What is the result that I want to achieve in this area?
  2. What is my purpose in this area?
  3. What are the action steps that I am going to take in order to achieve this goal?
  4. Are my results, purpose and actions in alignment with my core values and beliefs?

These are your results, purpose and actionable steps for this segment of your wheel of life. Write the answers to these questions into the appropriate segment of the wheel of life.

You now have a solid strategy map for the segment of the wheel of life that includes your core values and beliefs and a clear result, purpose and set of actions that will allow you to achieve your goals.

It doesn’t take willpower to achieve the goals that you wrote down for each segment of your wheel of life. Rather, you are following a path that allows you to move towards goals that you want in life in a way that is consistent with your core values and beliefs that empower you. The wheel of life can be re-evaluated every six months to make sure that you are on track for what you want to achieve in life.

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